This is the latest in a series of posts by Do Life Movement founder and AllSport GPS Ambassador Ben Davis.
When I was first starting on my journey to lose weight, I scoured the internet looking for articles and tips and advice and help columns and…and…and… anything I could get my hands on. It’s a natural thing, I think, to look for some answers to those questions, particularly early on.
So let’s do a little of that. Some questions and answers.
I opened it to the Do Life Facebook friends, questions submitted through AllSport GPS site, and some via email and message.
What would be your advice on how to train for a marathon? I've never run more than 13 miles and just the thought of training scares me, never mind the actual race! –Karen
Karen, this is an interesting question because it usually comes from someone who is just getting to 5K or 10K. So to see you already having done 13, you’re a lot closer than you think! It’s going to take slightly more training, but you’ll get there. 
And this doesn’t just go for someone who is already at 13 miles; this is for everyone. You have to find a training guide and stick to it. (RunnersWorld.com and HalHigdon.com have great guides). Training plans are something I never knew about when we first started, but something that I’ve realized now even through Ironman, that you have to utilize.
Training for a marathon might seem overwhelming, but when you break it down daily, it’s something that even as a beginner is surprisingly doable (after building a solid foundation, of course). Take it one day at a time and you’ll get there.
When you were overweight and began working out, did you ever feel out of place or "on show"? Were you insecure about it? How did you keep pushing yourself? – No More Tomorrows
Oh definitely. Especially in the pool! But here’s what I found: It’s all in my mind.
Think about it. When was the last time you were driving around, saw an overweight person out exercising and ridiculed them? It doesn’t happen. It’s the exact same for you. No one is out there judging us for trying to better ourselves. More often than not, they’re jealous.
And if someone IS making fun of us or laughing at us, it just goes to show what kind of person they are and has no bearing on us. Let them be bitter and angry and carry on being awesome.
How do you start training for a tri knowing nothing about bikes and how to swim properly? -- Danielle
Put it this way… When we signed up for our first Ironman (2.4 mile swim, 112-mile bike, 26.2 mile run) I didn’t have a bike and had swum a very minimal amount and with no proper teaching. But that’s the thing, we jump into these things—whatever they may be—not because we’re “ready” for them, but because they excite and intrigue us.
We may be scared, but we’re also determined, and that can go a long way. So buy or borrow a bike, and jump into the local pool. Get comfortable and just try. You’ll be surprised at how far your natural ability will take you. Then, if you need it, get some proper help. Ask lots of questions. Watch videos. Do whatever you need to do. But don’t let the anxiety of something keep you away. It’s incredibly worth it to try.
How do you relate to your old friends who are not into running or healthy anything? Are these relationships awkward now? –Ivana
Not at all. If anything, it’s made those relationships better. We all have our hobbies and lifestyles, but we also are all interested in hearing about those things that we’re not necessarily a part of.
I’ve definitely made new friends who are into running and healthy living and friends I can discuss running splits, triathlon strategies, and bloody nipples with, and that’s great, but no, my friends will always be my friends, no matter our interests.
Do you think you would be as successful if you did not have a strong support system? – Amanda
Definitely not. And it’s the number one piece of advice I have for people. You have to have a team.
I think the hardest part about this, though, is being honest with people that you have something you are struggling with. As humans, our natural instinct is to shy away from revealing our troubles and try to deal with it on our own, but it’s so much easier and more realistic if we have a support system. We have to share the journey. It makes it more fun, it makes it easier, and it makes it that much more satisfying when are successful.
Also, it provides us with an accountability system. It’s much easier to slack when we answer only to ourselves. But when we’re sitting there on the couch thinking about skipping a workout and a text comes in from our workout buddy, we’re going to be motivated to strap on our shoes.
What kept you going on the weight loss when it got hard or slow or boring? – Angie
It’s going to happen for all of us. So be ready for it.
There were a few things. Fear was a big one. Fear of going back to that place, mentally and physically. Life is exponentially better when we’re fit and healthy.
But the biggest thing for me to keep moving forward was to always have something to work toward. If we go into these journeys with nothing official to keep working toward, and we’re just blindly walking into fitness centers and doing an elliptical for 30 minutes a day, we’re definitely going to get burned out. That’s why I suggest getting involved somehow in something official. Maybe it’s a running club or swim class or signing up for races (don’t be scared of races!) But having something to train for always kept me going and to this day I make sure to always have an upcoming race. It’s the number one motivation for me.
Keep chugging along.
Do good. Do life.